Inner pain & emotional turmoil

Inner pain

Pain inside, in your heart and soul, can have a major impact on your life. It can even completely disable you, both physically and mentally. We are referring to pain due to the loss of something or someone, something that has been done to you, something that has affected you. A loved one you have lost, a chronic illness that has turned your life upside down, a childhood or past that was unstable, a traumatic event that has happened to you, and even a job that you have lost can be causes of deep inner pain.


Emotional turmoil

Emotional pain settles in your mind, but also in your body. When emotions are not allowed to be expressed or even felt and are therefore repressed, disturbances can arise in the body. Symptoms such as nausea, abdominal pain, muscle tension (neck and shoulder complaints), headache, lump in the throat, can occur in addition to the psychological symptoms.

These psychological symptoms can be: blaming yourself, thinking yourself worthless or stupid, having little self-confidence, self-criticism, worrying, sleeping poorly, binge eating or problems with alcohol and other substances.

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An example

A young woman came to me because she could not move on after a great loss. She had also been on sick leave for quite some time. She received guidance for six months. After one of the last sessions she sent me the following message:

"I would like to thank you again for this afternoon's session. I am still recovering from it, but it was really so nice. I feel such peace in my body and mind, as if this is where I have been all these months as if this was THE handle to get me back on track. THANK YOU.


During the session we used a deep trance and a special technique, in which the client indicated that he wanted to swing together. As a therapist I guide the process, I monitor the frameworks, but I follow the client in her world.

  • Inner pain and loss and hypnotherapy

    In many cases, psychological pain and physical pain go hand in hand. After all, body and mind are connected. With psychosocial hypnotherapy we pay attention to the whole.


    Sooner or later, we all face loss. Whether it's the death of a loved one, the end of a relationship, the loss of a job, losing one's health, or a loved one experiencing dementia (psychosocial loss).


    Grieving takes time and energy. Suppressing it doesn't help; the pain and sorrow will always resurface.


    We assist in acknowledging and accepting the loss, helping you integrate it into your life at a pace that is right for you.

  • Mourning is hard work


    Manu Keirse identifies four tasks of mourning that we must go through. These tasks can overlap and do not follow a strict sequence.

    1. Accepting the Reality of the Loss
    2. Experiencing the Pain
    3. Adjusting to Life Without the Lost Person or Thing.
    4. Reinvesting in Life With the Absence.

    Only when these four tasks have been completed is the mourning process considered complete.


    However, it’s important to note that grief has no expiration date. Everyone grieves in their own way.


    Loss is unique!

  • Emotions and reactions after loss

    After experiencing a loss, in addition to sadness, you may encounter a range of emotions and thoughts:


    - A feeling of going crazy

    - Confusion and disorientation

    - Conflicting thoughts and behaviors

    - Fear and anxiety

    - Protest and aggression

    - Guilt

    - Shame

    - Depression and despair

    - Physical pain

    - Compulsive rumination

    - Questions about the meaning of life

    - Idealization of the lost person or situation

    - Suicidal thoughts

    - Dreams

    - Changes in social behavior

    - And more


    These reactions are a natural part of the grieving process, and they can vary greatly from person to person.

  • Complicated grief and loss

    In cases of complicated grief or loss, it is advisable to seek professional help. This includes situations such as:

    • Denial or Suppression of Grief: Avoiding the process of grieving, either currently or in anticipation of future losses.
    • Traumatic Grief: When the trauma's memories, fears, and panic take precedence, preventing the grieving process.
    • Prolonged Grief: When grief reactions do not diminish in intensity over time.
    • Somatized Grief: When grief manifests through physical symptoms instead of emotional ones.
    • The Loss of a Child or Parent at a Young Age: Such losses can be particularly challenging and overwhelming.
    • Loss Due to Suicide: This type of loss often involves complex emotions and may require specialized support.

    Seeking help can provide guidance and support through these particularly challenging experiences.

Hulp

Whether it concerns loss of health, mourning a loved one, loss of a pet, empty nest syndrome, a miscarriage, loss of belongings after a burglary or fire, loss of a job or loss of self-confidence, it hurts. It hurts your head, your body and your soul.


Tips for loss and grief

Some tips that can help you:

  1. Talk about it with your loved ones and/or friends or, if you find that difficult, write about it.
  2. Make sure you get enough rest. Mourning takes a lot of energy.
  3. Give space to your emotions, they are allowed to be there.
  4. Give yourself time. The deeper the wound, the longer the recovery!
  5. Seek professional help if you can't manage it on your own – you don't have to do it alone and there are several options to work through your loss at your pace.